Mutual masturbation is a splendid weapon in your relationship building toolbox because the Golden Rule “Do unto others…” does not always apply, believe it or not.
What do I mean by mutual masturbation?
I use this term to describe individual stimulation in the presence of others.
The specific purpose of this post is to explain why masturbating with your partner can build intimacy and help everyone get what they want from the relationship.
Communication is my number one rule for any relationship, and for this activity to be successful both partners must understand what they want to get out of the experience. In my experience the best way to avoid confusion is to TALK TO EACH OTHER! It’s a crazy idea, but mouths are useful for things other than kissing (no matter the body part). If you cannot talk to your partner, or communicate in some way, you will probably never enjoy being together anyway.
One objective of mutual masturbation is to show your partner what you enjoy for yourself (and what you don’t enjoy). It gives you the when, where, how fast and hard you like it. This is good because you can walk your partner through how you get your jollies and they can do the same for you. You can explain your specific anatomy so as to avoid mood killers like tender areas and any areas you wish to be left alone.
Another thing to keep in mind with mutual masturbation is that it requires a large amount of trust. I find this to be the most important goal. If you get comfortable with your partner’s body, you can give them what they want. You have to give to receive, and this goes for knowledge also. The more information the better.
Feel free to have your partner touch you with your explicit guidance. Play a erotic version of Follow The Leader, if you will. Try to not be too serious about this and you will enjoy yourselves even more! It is entirely possible that neither partner will cum or orgasm, but it does not mean you are doing something wrong. This just means you are concentrating on learning.
After you learn some points of interest try them out… Just follow your bliss (and your partner’s). After all, you probably share mutual bliss.
Talk amongst yourselves… or masturbate amongst yourselves.
Or better yet, both!