my thoughts today… co-dependency?

~my thoughts today~

Master and i met online but we never carried out our relationship online… for numerous reasons … we never did an online D/s relationship… Everything we have explored together has been in conversations we have had and when we are together in real.

i have observed alot of D/s situations… discussions… all the discussions i have observed …i do just that… observe… take it all in… somethings i apply this knowledge to my relationship with Master… most i find interesting… at one time i was going to have a Mentor… but we chose not to go that route… we feel that our relationship has grown and progressed into a D/s relationship naturally… by how our chemistry is… it just fits for us…

i must say online D/s is really not for me.. i definitely prefer to have it real time with Master. Most i have observed online do not live the lifestyle in real… it is all a fantasy… How does one really know they are Dominant or submissive if they only type it out on a computer?

One conversation i had observed was a girl who said she was a real time switch… submissive to a Dominant Male but Domme to women… she commented that a D/s relationship was a co-dependent relationship… because one depended on the other for it to be a D/s relationship… my thoughts were co-dependent? co-dependent relationships are unhealthy to all involved… i tend to think of co-dependency as stagnant.. a standstill where neither person can move forward and grow… it being a viscious cycle that neither person can get out of… and both involved are unhappy… one needs the other to blame for their own unhappiness and/or vice versa… each blame the other so they don’t have to change themselves… easier to blame someone else than look inward and see the changes they need to make for their own happiness…

i definitely don’t think of my relationship with Master as a co-dependent one at all… i look up to Him… i hold Him in the highest respect… i admire His strength… His knowledge… His patience… and His extraordinary Love that He has for me… He is my teacher in so many ways… He is my Dom and i am His submissive but it is a relationship that grows and thrives on our love/need for one another… our relationship is always moving forward and growing… becoming stronger and better than the day before… we compliment one another and i truly believe that shows when we are together… we just flow nicely together….. in so many ways…

So i have to disagree with this girl’s aspect on a D/s relationship… for me a good healthy strong relationship… whether it be a D/s one or a vanilla one… it is not co-dependent… Yes you become dependent on one another but all in a very healthy way… where what you give/and get in return is something that both individuals cherish.. and it only enriches their relationship…

i have daily reminders of my place… i wear a choker and Master gave me an anklet with bells… the bells remind me of who i am… His slave… this is by far the richest… deepest bond i have ever had… and i treasure it … for it is more precious than any jewel i own… no price can be put on this… because it is definitely something few can obtain…

i am extremely fortunate to be my Master’s and there is no other place i would rather be than eternally at His feet…

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